Grateful, Part 1

Dianne* met a couple of strip club dancers when she was 17 who encouraged her to dance, but she told them she wasn’t interested. So they encouraged her to turn tricks instead.

* Her real name, used with permission.

“I was too screwed up to get a job, and I needed money for drugs,” Dianne shares. “I liked the idea of prostitution as it would allow me to be in control of men. I thought it would be a way to ‘stick it’ to my abusive father, knowing he’d be mortified.”

Thinking prostitution wasn’t a big deal, she convinced herself she could detach from the sexual act.

“Once I started, I realized it wasn’t that easy. Emotionally, I felt sick, even nauseous. It was degrading to have a man paw at me. I thought I was in control, but really I had no control at all,” Dianne shares.

** Please read the following prostitution facts before reading more of Dianne’s story. **

 

 

 

Because I Love You So Much

Dianne (age 3) with her father and brother

Dianne may have been a few years older than the average age of entry for prostitution, but incest by her father definitely drew her in.

The sadistic, sexual abuse started when she was just three years old. “Being forced to look at the pictures he gave me of himself naked was terrifying and scary. I knew it wasn’t right.”

He would chase Dianne and intimidate her by saying, “I’m doing this, because I love you so much.” Dianne remembers the abuse occurring several times a week, every week.

When the sexual abuse started, migraines became an incapacitating struggle for Dianne.  Her mom would give her the tranquilizers her doctor prescribed  to help get rid of the pain. “They knocked me out, and I didn’t have to think about the abuse.”

A Rage with Severe Mood Swings

Dianne knew her mom would never believe the man she loved was sexually molesting her daughter when she was out running errands or at bridge club parties. Dianne knew how much she loved her husband, so she decided not to tell her.

Dianne remembers her mom as being emotionally detached and not maternal. She longed for an emotional connection with her mom during her elementary and middle school years.

Dianne, age 15

Around 15 years old, Dianne began abusing diet pills. “I was in control. They gave me a sense of euphoria – like I could do anything. I’d take them and stay up for days. I was earning great grades. But after not sleeping or eating for days, I would go into a rage with severe mood swings.”

In one rage, Dianne remembers confronting her father and saying, “I’ll kill you if you touch me again.” At age 16, this threat finally stopped the abuse.

Determined Not to Feel

Despite all the drugs and partying she did during high school, Dianne graduated early. “My parents found a letter I’d written describing all my partying. After reading it, my dad threw me on the floor and started beating me and pointing a gun at me. He told me he’d rather see me dead than with a needle in my arm.”

Dianne begged to leave. “You can go, but you have to tell us where you are,” her parents said.

She roamed the streets of midtown Atlanta until she moved in with Lisa (not her real name) who was a few years older than Dianne.

Lines Became Very Blurred

 

“Not understanding how much I lacked a maternal emotional bond, I started thinking I was in love with Lisa. She was everything my mother was not.  She would hold me and tell me everything would be OK. The lines became very blurred. I had no concept of what love was, but I definitely thought it involved sex.”

Dianne became co-dependent on Lisa, and Lisa quickly tired of it.

Prostituting Herself for Drug Money

After meeting the strip club dancers at 17, Dianne began prostituting herself for drug money. “I would walk the streets and have sex with two johns each night, earning just enough money for drugs. I’d party the rest of the night.”

A pimp introduced her to heroin and Dilaudid. “When I did those drugs, I didn’t feel anything or care about anything. I just wanted to die. I even tried to overdose twice and failed both times.”

A friend of Dianne’s and her pimp wanted Dianne to hook up with a john to take his money without having sex. “After I got him to a room, my friend hit the john with a gun. We took his money and car and partied for several hours before deciding to try it again. When we went back to the place where I hooked up with the john, several people told us the cops were looking for us.”

Grateful

Dianne – age 18

“I was arrested for armed robbery and prostitution. I was 18 years old. I spent two months in jail, and it was terrifying,” she remembers.

“I knew I never I wanted to go back. I watched women be raped with broom sticks in jail. I sat next to the crazy woman who was in there for murdering her baby. I was safe when I sat next to her.”

Dianne reported a potentially horrible racial fight brewing between blacks and whites to the matron, but her information was dismissed. While she was in the arraignment cell awaiting her arraignment, the racial riot happened. Because she wasn’t in her regular cell when it happened, Dianne felt God protected her.

“Some people came to talk about Jesus. I felt like I needed to accept ‘that guy,’ because I wanted things to change. I decided I’d accept him if he got me out of jail.”

When she was released from jail for armed robbery and prostitution, Dianne was grateful. But she promptly forgot about accepting ‘that guy.’

Sobered Up Quickly

Dianne and Lisa moved into a boarding house. Dianne thought a job at an insurance company would earn the money she needed to live and surely reduce her chances of going back to jail. However, her paycheck was still being used to support her drug habit.

At work, Dianne met Susan (not her real name). “I was attracted to her as I was convinced I was a lesbian.”

Susan invited Dianne to go to church with her, and Dianne agreed as a means of getting close to her. “I was high as a kite when I entered that small, back woods church. But I sobered up quickly when I witnessed a man speaking in tongues who was rebuking the devil out of the man he was praying for.”

Ten Thousand Pounds

Jesus - gratefulAfter the sermon, the preacher declared that someone there didn’t believe and that person needed to have faith in Jesus. “I was afraid they all knew it was me. I went down to the altar. When I tried to say Jesus, I couldn’t. Something had my tongue.”

The people at Susan’s church laid hands on Dianne and rebuked the devil. “Finally after enough prayer, I was able to say Jesus. It felt like ten thousand pounds came off me. I was grateful.”

Sadly, that feeling didn’t last. She felt like the same ‘ol Dianne. “My spirit man had been saved, but my soul was still a big mess. I didn’t understand why I still felt the same ways about drugs, alcohol, and liking women. It was confusing.”

Come back next Friday to read Part 2 of Dianne’s incredible journey!

 

Leave a reply (below): After this church service, Dianne was at a critical point in her journey. She wanted to see changes, but they hadn’t happened. Yet.
We’ve all been there.
Please comment with your thoughts about what it takes to make lasting changes in your life.

 

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16 Responses to Grateful, Part 1

  • Glenda Cole says:

    I can in no way comprehend this kind of life. It’s tragic. I pray in part two she turned her life around and is serving our Jesus.

    • Dianne Partain says:

      Thank you for your comment Glenda! Yes…there is wonderful restoration, victory and joy in part 2. God is amazing and there is no place dark enough, low enough, far enough to keep God’s love, light, grace, mercy and compassion from reaching us.

  • Dianne, I am so sorry for all you went through. No matter how deep the pit is that we find ourselves in, Jesus extends His hand to pull us out. He is a God of restoration!

    • Dianne Partain says:

      Thank you for your comment Maureen! You are so right! There is no pit dark enough nor deep enough to keep the hand of Jesus from reaching us. And I have personally found that His precious nail scared hand is always extended. He is AMAZING! I love how God is a God of restoration. He can take the broken pieces of our lives and make something so beautiful! Only God! I love how everything the enemy meant for evil and harm, God uses for His glory if we allow Him to. Part two reveals His grace, love, restoration, and healing!

  • Rachael Gelinas says:

    Wow-I always knew there was something extra special about you and now I see a little bit more into why. Thank you for sharing what you’ve shared thus far. Incredibly powerful testimony and genuine to the core.

    • Dianne Partain says:

      Rachael you are so sweet and so kind. I still have the earrings you made for me. That gift was from you heart and it truly touched my heart. You are a beautiful and amazing woman. I am glad that we are sisters in Christ and get to hang out for eternity! I love you girl!

  • Lisa says:

    Amazing story

    • Dianne Partain says:

      God can sure take a bunch of mess and make one amazing story out of it. I am so grateful today to be free in Him!!! Thank you for taking the time to read part 1 and commenting. Blessings to you…Dianne

  • Knowing Dianne personally–I’m pretty much speechless for appropriate words that can describe the EXTRAORDINARY SUPERNATURAL RESTORATION that Jesus has done in her and for her–she is absolutely a NEW creation in Christ, and a wonderful friend and sister in Christ to me! Thank you (!!!) Dianne and Melony for so boldly sharing your victorious story, so that many others can be greatly encouraged.

    Jesus’ heart of love and forgiveness is the SAME toward every person (Rom 2:11), and since He did such mighty things for Dianne, He greatly desires to do the same great miracles for anyone else who’s reading! Just say “Amen, Jesus!” =)

    • Dianne Partain says:

      Amanda I love you! You are such a wonderful friend and sister to me! You are such an amazing teacher of the Gospel…The GOOD news! I have received and continue to receive so much from you. Your commitment to sharing and teaching God’s Word is amazing. You are relentless. If anyone is in the Marietta area and would like to learn more about our wonderful, gracious, loving Father, you are welcome to come to Amanda’s Bible study at the Marietta library off the square on Monday nights at 7. You can go to http://www.freelyforgivenforever.com to find out more.

  • Bridget Savitske says:

    Dianne, you have an incredible testimony of God’s unrelenting love in your life. I am so encouraged, to the point of tears.

    • Dianne Partain says:

      Thank you Bridget! You are so precious! I feel so blessed and honored that Melony wanted to share my journey. I love what the enemy meant for harm, God took and used for His glory! I am so grateful today that His love is unrelenting! His love is everything! After having an encounter with LOVE/GOD…everything in my life changed! Our Papa is amazing and I thank Jesus continually for the finished work of the Cross! All I can say is…Only God! 🙂

  • Jennifer Potts Anglin says:

    Dianne, what courage you have. I know your confession brings you healing. I pray it helps others find release from the grips of Satan.

    • Dianne Partain says:

      Jennifer, I want you know that I am eternally grateful for you. You were a “key player” used in God’s plan to redeem, deliver, restore, and heal me. I don’t even want to think about what life would have looked like without you being a part of it. I love you!

  • Kiera says:

    I am soooo glad we got you two hooked up! Your story needs to be shared, Dianne! There are so many lost and hurt and abused and emotionally scarred girls and women out there that need an exit and need a glimpse of hope! But you are more than a glimpse of hope–you are a light of rescue and restoration in a dark place! I love you!

    • Dianne Partain says:

      Kiera you made me cry! I love you so much and I’m so grateful for our friendship! You are such an inspiration and light to all! You continually inspire me. I am so grateful that God divinely hooked us up and that you are a part of my life! Let’s Rock it here and in eternity 🙂 <3

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