“My life is about overcoming the abortion statistics of single black women,” Natasha* shared.
“Eighteen years ago, I chose to give my son life instead of aborting him.”
* Her real name, used with permission.
DISCLAIMER: Natasha is very passionate about helping single black women choose life instead of abortion. Any reference to her as a single black woman is at her request.
When Natasha met Raymond (not his real name) at a club during college, she was living life in a rebellious way.
Before long, Natasha discovered she was expecting. Discussions about getting married only lasted a couple of weeks before Raymond decided he didn’t want to get married. Instead, he told Natasha he’d pay for her to have an abortion.
“I was scared. I felt all alone since Raymond didn’t want to get married or take responsibility for the baby. I wrestled with the decision, but ultimately I decided to have the abortion,” she remembers.
One of her mom’s friends, let’s call her Denise, lived near her college town. Natasha reached out to her. After confiding in her, they discussed Natasha’s options and prayed. Denise strongly urged her to reconsider having an abortion.
“I will take you, but I will not go inside,” Denise said.
Denise waited in the car and prayed while Natasha went inside the abortion clinic and filled out the paperwork.
Required by Texas law, Natasha was then directed to watch a video about the abortion process. “It was horribly graphic. Something came over me about halfway through the video that made me feel what I was doing wasn’t right,” Natasha remembers.
Filled with terror, she ran out of the clinic and straight to Denise’s car. Together, they agreed Natasha needed to tell her parents about the baby.
“I’m five months pregnant,” she confessed to her parents. Her strict, former military dad hugged her and said, “I wish things could be different, but either way, we will help you.”
Natasha quit college and began working at a call center. After hearing a customer give his name, she asked him about it. He told her Elijah meant man of God. She instantly knew this would be her son’s name.
During the remainder of her pregnancy, Natasha spoke words of affirmation over her growing stomach. In June of 2000, Natasha welcomed Elijah into the world.
“When I looked at him, I realized I was holding a part of me. Knowing I was his mom was very fulfilling. I was so thankful I didn’t have an abortion.”
Natasha and Elijah traveled to Chicago to meet Raymond’s mom who knew nothing about the baby.
Natasha wanted to finish college, but knew finding child care would be difficult. Maurice’s mom took care of Elijah until he was two and half years old. When she became ill, Raymond cared for his son until Elijah was five.
During that time, she encountered God and gave her life to Him. Immersing herself in prayer, making good quality friends, and getting her life stabilized made her realize she wanted her son back.
When Maurice called to say he wanted Elijah to live with her, she was beyond excited.
Natasha was unable to finish her degree, but she promised herself one day she would.
Joining International House of Prayer (IHOP) in 2007 led to Natasha becoming an intercessory prayer missionary. Her personal prayers and leading others in prayer strengthened her relationship with God. She was involved with this ministry for 10 years.
During this time, men in the congregation mentored Elijah, giving him Godly men to follow and emulate.
Natasha learned about Bound4Life’s silent siege – a stand in silent prayer on behalf of the nation that is murdering its children – when Elijah was seven years old.
It was time to include Elijah in the life-changing decision she made for him.
She told him she chose not to abort him and was so thankful she kept him. And they would walk the silent siege in hopes that other mommies would decide to keep their babies, too.
Natasha was and continues to be deeply concerned about single black women who feel their only option is to choose abortion. The statistics are alarming.
As much as Natasha loved being a mom, she knew receiving an education would open doors for her to support herself and her son.
“Overcoming is overcoming obstacles when life is not going your way. My goal was overcoming the abortion statistics of a single black woman. And I was a mom who also wanted an education,” she shared.
In 2009, after many years of determination and sacrifice, she graduated with a degree in Business Administration with a focus on Marketing & Sales.
Raising Elijah hasn’t been easy. With an inconsistent relationship with his father, Elijah has tested the waters. Each time, Natasha guided him to the important truth that God is his father.
When his father quit responding to his texts, Elijah felt alone. However, his maturity can be seen when he told Natasha, “I won’t hold that against him. I don’t hate him. I will not walk in unforgiveness.”
Elijah has gone to a private Christian school since middle school. With this strong foundation, Elijah is looking at his next steps since high school graduation is just around the corner.
He plans to study music production in college. He dreams of becoming a musical artist, specifically a rap singer/songwriter. “I don’t want to be a Christian rapper, but I do want them to know me as a man who loves Jesus,” he explained to Natasha when they were discussing his future.
I have to pause for a moment to consider the void our world would experience in a few years without Elijah’s precious life. He’s already been a blessing, but imagine the lives for Christ he has the potential of impacting through his music.
Natasha chose to give Elijah life instead of aborting him. And we will all be blessed as a result of her decision.
With dreams of her own, Natasha envisions the day when she will be an international high end fashion buyer and own a boutique.
Recently, she attended a J. Bolin Celebrity Fashion Stylist bootcamp to learn more about the industry. Meeting and chatting with J. Bolin was the highlight of the weekend.
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Natasha often reflects on the blessing of her son. I asked her to share her advice to single black women who have chosen to keep their child.
She said, “Don’t fear what you haven’t experienced yet. Have faith God will take care of you and your child, and He will lead you. Pay attention to how God created your child. Ask God to help mold him into who He wants him to be.”
Natasha’s life with her son Elijah is a success story of a single black woman overcoming the abortion statistics.
Her strength and passion have greatly impacted me. Because of Natasha’s story, I’ve learned about a growing epidemic in our black community.
Encouraging black women to choose life is not just the responsibility of the black community. We all can speak out and pray for the lives of unborn black American babies.